My Personal Life.
I could mention all of the lessons in life that have been passed on to me or things that I have learned on my own. But lordy! It would take up a great deal of space. So I will only mention a few.
*Never apologize for something you did not do.
*Admit mistakes. No one is perfect. Not even God.
*Take responsibility for what you feel or believe. Don’t flip flop. It only makes you look like you don’t have strength
*Be yourself. Changing who you are will confuse those around you and you as a person.
*Be happy and don’t let poison into your life. It will drag you down and weaken your defenses.
*Don’t let anyone take your smile. They do not deserve to take something that they didn't earn.
*Speak up when asked.
*Not everyone is going to like you. Get over it and move on.
*Live by the rules you have made for yourself and the rules set upon you in your career.
*Don’t be phony. Changing your personality to suit each individual around you, is just that…phony.
*Trust only those in your inner circle and take your time trusting others who haven’t earned the trust.
*Be suspicious of things that cause you to go ..hmmm??
*Don’t insult others who have been in your shoes or have faced the same life’s measures that you have gone through.
*Be strong in faith and know that you cannot control what others think. You know who you are.
*Be proud of the things you have achieved and the mountains you have trekked over.
*Be beautiful for yourself and no one else.
*Don’t live a fantasy life. Dream and wish and hope things work out the way you want them to work out.

My life on NN. Now this will mirror the above mentioned points….but with a twist. So keep reading.
*Never apologize for something you didn’t do.
*Admit mistakes. No one is perfect. Not even God.
*Some do not care for my beliefs / morals. At least I take responsibility and have the strength for what I feel or believe & don’t flip flop.
*I'm myself & never changed. I did leave for work one time but didn't hide when I returned. Now some members have changed their names because their name did not suit their true self on NN.
*This place makes me happy. It always has. Many have tried to make it or me miserable, but it never works. You won’t drag me down. Poison is not a part of my life and you won’t weaken me.
*Don’t let anyone take your smile. They are not worth taking something that they did not earn.
*I do speak up. I go about my time on NN and voice an opinion on something that is put before me. I'm not the only one who does. If you like don’t what it is, then fine. No big deal.
*Not everyone is going to like you. Get over it and move on. If you like me, fine. If not? Big deal. I do not care.
*I live by the rules & mention them to others. I'm not a mod, but mods need help. Read my blog on why I assist the Mods. If something is suspicious, I will say it. I'm not the only one.
*Phony? If I embellished who I am and my life, my ex would speak up. He is on the site. He knows me all too well. Of course he would know me…he named me. My life is what it is and those in my inner circle know this.
*Trust only those in your inner circle and take your time trusting others who haven’t earned the trust.
*Be suspicious of what makes you go hhmm? I call out things that make me wonder. I'm not the only one.
*Don’t insult others who have been in your shoes. EXAMPLE: If I ridicule someone for being divorced I would look like a fool. After all, I am divorced too. Another example: Lemonies husband called me a slut & cunt for being here. Lemonie was here too...Hello? Kettle meet Pot.
*Be strong in faith and know that you cannot control what others think. You know who you are.
*Be proud of the things you have achieved and the mountains you have trekked over.
*I don’t post on this site because I need praise or lack confidence. MORE POWER TO THOSE WHO DO. I understand and won’t ridicule you for it. We are all here for different reasons. I am confident and come by it naturally. Be beautiful for yourself and no one else.
*Don’t live a fantasy life. My life is normal with its ups and downs. I don’t embellish my life. If I did, the people who have known me for years on this site would have seen it by now. Some have my work number and some have my address. I dream and usually make my own dreams come true.
*Some members come here to live a different life on NN and to escape from what is or isn't in their personal lives. Escape is good for some. Luckily, I don’t have to do it. I like my life the way it is.

So you see my dear NNers. My life and who I am on and off NN mirror one another. No illusions, no fake photos, no exaggerated moments. I know too many people on this site and they know me and have spoken to me. I wonder if one particular member who is calling the kettle black will see this? I doubt it. Life will go on….off or on NN.

After being gone since the 18th of December, it is time to head back to the office. The vacation was good but it did have its moments of sadness. Thank God my future daughter in law wasn't killed and the money that was taken from me is just paper. I will survive and my sons fiance will heal.

So it's back to work in order to pay back the officer who had the responsibility of managing the suicides all on his own for this entire time. He will be leaving for his holiday and I will be in charge of the suicides for 11 days. It's all good. We are a team.

It is going to feel weird setting the alarm clock for 0500. I wonder how many times I will set the snooze alarm?

Never make a list.


Calvin has the right attitude.



I hope the put a smile on your face.

Time flies while I am with my sons. I miss them already, but it feels good to be in my own home. I get to sit in my own bath, my own pillow top bed...complete with one of the softest heating blankets around! My own couch and my own comfort. I get to run around nekkid again!! NEKKID I TELL YOU!!! I am free!!!
I have already stripped down to my bare skin and will eat dinner in a moment.

The point of this blog is to let all of you know that I am going to prepare next weeks blog challenge. I will post it before I go to bed. I am anxious to get to bed....mmmmmmm...my own bed.

Well Peeps, I am heading for home. I'm a day late in travels, but oh well. Life happens. I don't know if I will take pictures along the way, but if'n I do...(lol @ if'n) I will share them later.

I am off to see what I can see!

Can I get a high 5!!
I made the necessary calls to my former patrol partner, who in turn called the officer in charge of my future daughter in laws accident. My son and I went to the local shops in the area and everyone was able to show us the videos. I am pleased to tell you that it was all caught on tape. Then we went to the PD and spoke to the officer in charge and we gave him the videos. He told us that last night, after the accident, he went to the house in question and now knows who was driving the car. It seems a Mother and Daughter own the car and it was the daughters boyfriend. They assumed that when the officer asked who owned that particular car, they thought he had been in an accident and spoke up out of worry. But when the officer told them what had happened, they said "Well we think it was him driving" lol..........hahaha....anything to get away with not taking responsibility. They were back tracking after they had already told the officer that Marco had taken the car to get new tires and rims.
This was last night. This morning @ 0800, the officer ordered them to produce the car and they guy of face criminal actions. As of today, at 1400, they hadn't called. So I guess they want to play rough. So be it.
E now has a big weight off of her shoulders and can now start the insurance claim to get her brand new truck fixed or replaced. Then she is going to start legal action against those who were responsible for hitting her. If that includes the Mother and Daughter, then so be it. In Cali, if you loan your car to someone and they are in an accident, the owner is still responsible.
E is very sore today and is resting. She looks like a raccoon, but a cute one...lol.
Bottom line, we did what was needed to do and I am glad that I stayed to help in order to use my contacts.

The ex and I were heading out for dinner when we received a call from my youngest son. Our future daughter in law E was in an auto accident on her way home from work. A guy had made an illegal u-turn right in front of her. There wasn't any breaking on her part because he just appeared out of no where. Going head on into another car at 35 mph without breaking, is like hitting a brick wall. The guy took off leaving her there injured and helpless. Witnesses came out to help her and assist her out of the car. Someone followed the car and got a partial plate. There is video footage that shows the guy making the illegal turn. She did briefly see the guy, but isn't sure she can make a full ID if they catch him. When my son arrived on scene, one of the witnesses told him that she saw what had happened and then told the police that her camera would show him making the turn right in front of her. But it doesn't show the driver. I am hoping when I go back to the scene, other cameras in the area will show him.

The officers did run the partial plate and the registered owner out in another city, does own the very black make and model of the SUV. So here is what might happen. He could have ditched the car and claim that it was stolen or he could just hide it at a friends house. This is why I need to go back to the area and look for other cameras. I did drive by the street and did see about 2 other cameras. Hopefully I will get lucky.

I am hoping that the lead traffic investigators I know in the city where the accident took place and the in the city where the guy lives, will track this SOB down!! E. has head trauma, facial trauma, a bruised/burned collar bone and abdomen bruising from the seat belt. She also is a bit blinded from the air bag explosion. She is my girl. The daughter I never had, so of course I cried as I held her hand.

I was going to head back home today, but have decided to stay until Saturday and help a bit. I love this young woman. Tonight I pray for her.

My name is 'Hiorkpu' It's a pleasure to meet you.

During the holidays I usually end up with a few nicks and scrapes. It is the nature of the xxxxx. I accept it all...they are wounds of pride.

The Christmas Day boo boo's are:
Left hand: One Jammed index finger.
Right hand: Three burned fingers from picking up the wrong end of the fire poker. (yes, I did that)
Stomach bruise from carrying a chair and ramming it into the door jam, thus ramming it into my abdomen....lol
Then yes, I did it again while carrying another chair, but turned it around and one of the legs got me right in the hoohah...*ouchie*
Left wrist: A burn from reaching into the oven and checking the Prime Rib.
Right Wrist: Got tweaked a bit from unfolding the oak table.
Right Foot: Little pinkie toe. I stubbed it on the brass table leg while cleaning the glass top before company arrived.

Christmas is not only a hallmark moment here. It is also a wound care center......lol.
I hope that everyone had a great day!
This is how I feel at the moment so I am off to have some wine.

This is my Christmas wish for you.
Be happy and healthy.
Love and be loved..
May your family and friends gather around you.
And if they cannot be around you, I hope that you can hear their voices with a phone call or read their words in a letter.
To have food on the table and a smile in your heart.
That sadness be kept at bay during this wonderful day and every day that follows.

Christmas wishes aren't just for children.
They are for everyone who believes, even if it's a simple or small belief, for Christmas wishes to come true.

I am not one to preach, but I celebrate the birth of Jesus on this day. It is his day. I understand that there are those who do not follow the faith of this day, but that does not mean I cannot wish you a Christmas Blessing from someone who is a believer and a dreamer. My Christmas wish is that one day, the world will be in a better place then it is now.
Simple, plain and true. That is my wish for me and you.

Merry Christmas