Tonight I go to meet by myself with our marriage counselor whom we have seen together twice and The Wife has seen last week on her own. Next week we go together again. I am truly not sure where this will lead, but I figure it is worth the rather small investment to try and avoid a divorce. This weekend, we will take a vacation (the first in about 8 years - except for visiting family) and I need to see if it changes her at all or if she is a bitch as she has been on past vacations. she says make sex spontaneous, but what that means is the same as always 'spontaneous on her terms' She has sort of made promises that things will be interesting while we are on vacation and I am tempted to try anal on her or at least DV with my dick and a vibe. I guess I will update on Monday with how things went (or sooner if anything interesting happens).