TNBuilder's blog post - Yesterday

Tuesday, July 14, 2015, 8:31:20 PM

The Wife and The Ex finally had a meeting and The Ex made it clear that she is not trying to get me back and that we have not been fucking on a regular basis (lol) but that the photos that The Wife found were old. I wrote (longhand) about 4 pages yesterday to The Wife expressing to her how angry I am with her and how I am not at this point interested in sex with her just for the sake of sex. The sex has to be real and not because she is trying to 'win' me back or some such nonsense. I admit, I enjoyed the sex for the past few weeks, but it is not real. It would be more real if it was a stranger from CL or something because at least then we are being honest that it is just a fuck for the sake of fucking but with your Wife, it is supposed to be making love because you genuinely care for each other.
We are going to counseling starting tonight, but I am ready for a divorce at this point. She may have done real, irreparable damage to both OUR relationship as well as that with my kids and that is inexcusable.

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JediMasterBater on 15-Jul-15 1:29:06

Sounds like counseling will be a good idea, seems like the issue was more than just sex. Out of curiosity, don't you think that your cheating may have done irreparable damage? I would be really hurt to find out that my partner was cheating on me...

TNBuilder on 15-Jul-15 20:14:39

The problems were much deeper (still are) then the lack of sex or cheating. I have always had self esteem problems due to my upbringing and she worked hard to destroy my self esteem even further by denying me anytime I tried to get close. The first counseling session was actually a huge step forward and it would appear that we will make progress from here.

JediMasterBater on 17-Jul-15 1:33:05

That's great! Good luck :)