TNBuilder's blog post - still frustrated

Saturday, January 29, 2011, 1:49:19 PM

Went to bed last night and tried to start something with The Wife, she says too tired, I say 'Figures'. Her response, why not stay in bed with me in the morning and cuddle, I point out that A) I do not like to just lie in bed in teh morning because it makes my back hurt, and B) she has to dog sit and has to leave for that while I fix up our birds. She does not argue and we both go to sleep. Me just more frustrated.
What the Hell was I thinking???? I know the answer before I ask!

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purr_rr on 29-Jan-11 18:03:48

comunication my friend u need to tell her what is on ur mind
n hugs

threedognight on 29-Jan-11 18:54:47

I am the self admitted master of doomed relationships, so take this for what it is worth. I am just guessing that when she asked for a morning snuggle it may have been a ovature to something more. Maybe not, but a thought.

ynottt on 29-Jan-11 20:27:17

well try the next door naybor

TNBuilder on 30-Jan-11 1:19:14

@Purr - I do tell her and she finds ways to not cooperate.
@dog - Oh, It was in her way, she knows that I will not be in bed when SHE is ready to get up, I get up at about 5 AM and she does not get out of bed till 8 or 9. In the past, I have asked her to just page me from her cell which she keeps on her bedside table, or come to me in the office before uncovering our birds, but she does not.
Ultimately, although she is a good 'partner' the affection is pretty much gone. I am trying not to just blog here about the negatives, but this IS my only 'private' place to vent and sort of keep notes.
Thanks to everyone who comments and sort of listens to my complaining with the occasional brag thrown in.

threedognight on 30-Jan-11 4:03:47

Hey TN, I really do understand. My wife is a good partner but has had zero passion for at least 10 years. We have tried counseling twice, her choice, but she quit both times. We haven't had sex at all in 16 months and I finally told her that a marriage with no passion was like living with your friend or cousin. Not doing it any more, I have asked for a divorce and she is not wanting to, she want to keep the marriage and I should just accept living without sex. So I do know where you are coming from, I hope it will get better and not go the other way. Good luck!

h0tcumm0dity on 2-Feb-11 5:49:41

sorry that you are going through this, it's no fun to be in a relationship with limited affection. I hope that things will improve for you soon.