Sharing porn and our fantasies is how the second wife and I got into the lifestyle some. We both talked about threesomes, and she got really into girl/girl porn, and I brought home some amateur partner swapping, and that often got her going. When we tried it, it was one of those nights that just happened. After then, we dabbled a little more and more. We rode motorcycles, and met folks at poker runs, and other events. The first time, we just wanted to go swimming at night, and were skinny dipping with another couple. It all went from there. While we had fantastic fun and experinces, communication is key. Take your time, get more porn, and enjoy together. You never know what may happen. That said, just have fun.