Hi Miss A_C
That is a big question that I don’t know the answer to but I will do my best to explain my feelings about it.
The wife and I started going together just before our 18th birthdays, I took her cherry just after we turned 19 “she was a very strict church going Catholic girl” (I had been with other women before we met), we married at 21 and had our family at 28 and 30 and the wife had her tubes tied after our last child.
We were early 30’s and I met an old school mate and his wife who we became friends with and started socializing with, after some time they told us that they were nudists and invited us along to their nudist club, we ended up joining the same club.
We were not their very long when we found out that their was an underground swinging movement at the club and my old school mate and his wife were members of it, the wife and I talked it over (well I talked it over, she said NO). I never put too much presser on her but bought the subject up when I thought she was in a suitable mood and I started making head way with her. To cut a long story short, I had told her that if ever anything did happen between her and another guy it would be 100% OK by me.
We were at a 100% straight party and I was called away to work and I knew their was no chance of me returning to the party so I arranged for her to get a lift home with a male friend Joe that was at the party on his own, I knew she was keen on Joe and had been flirting with during the night, (always trying) as I left the party I told them both to have a good time giving them a wink.
The next morning when I returned home she told me that she had been a naughty girl with our friend Joe, my reply was that a bit of a kiss and cuddle never hurt anyone, her reply was “it was more than a kiss and a cuddle”, it hit me like a train, it had finally happened, she told me in great detail what happened and I was just so turned on listening, we went to bed and made love straight away. We were 35 and had been married 15 years when that happened.
The next day we got a phone call from Joe who asked if it was OK for him to visit with his partner and the wife said yes, ‘with full knowledge of what was going to happen”, and it happened, we swapped partners. Word soon got around the nudist club that we had started swinging and we were soon invited to a lot of different swinging parties and the wife took to the lifestyle like a duck to water and we were in the swinging scene for around 10 or so years, before our lives went through a major change (it was family related) and we stopped swinging.
After a couple of years when we had our things sorted out again we talked about starting up swinging again, but things had changed, it just was not the same and we just did not seem able to fit in. The wife met a guy that she thought was pretty hot and asked if it would be OK if she played with him, why not I replied, so she went with him and we ended up having M F M threesomes with him, that became the lifestyle that we settled into, I don’t know why I find it such a turn on seeing her going with other guy but I do, and the love making we have after we have had a threesome if absolutely fantastic. We are now late 60’s and have been married close to 50 years and are still very much in love to this day, with no regrets at all, life has been good to us.
Rick181au.