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StrongAlbatross945
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Is being Bi cheating?
4-Oct-24 10:09
I am a 70 year old male with a high sexdrive living with my 70 yr old girlfriend who has no sexdrive. I live her withal my heart, but I need sex! I have resorted to going to an adult theatre to watch movies with other men. We all jerkoff together . I love getting naked and being watched and watching others. I love sucking cock too as well as being sucked. I am not into anal..... yet! Lol I have only kissed one man, but I live cock play. Most times it is all older men like myself or the occasional crossdresser, (which I sorta like). One time a beautiful black woman came in with her sub on a leash and she told him to suck my cock,while i played with her tits and that was awesome! My question is ,if I go and suck and stroke other guys is that considered cheating? I have to say that if a woman ever comes in and is willing, I would love to eat some pussy and fuck her , it's been 2 yrs since I ate and fucked pussy!!! I gotta have sex and don't know how else to get it. My girlfriend doesn't know what I do and I know eventually it'll slip out and I don't know what will happen then. Help me please! jerk jerk jerk raspberry raspberry raspberry tongue tongue tongue happydance happydance happydance

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Msh1313
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4-Oct-24 10:42
If gf isn’t giving you what you need, I wouldn’t consider it cheating if you suck cock or even fuck other women I’m in a similar situation. Haven’t had sex with my wife in many years. I’ve sucked cock quite a few times but only fucked one other woman.

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quietwacpl
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4-Oct-24 11:39
While in a relationship, doing anything sexual with anyone same gender or not without your partners knowledge & consent is cheating. But, I'm married & love my wife so my views may be skewed

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PhallicSupermacyOne
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4-Oct-24 12:04
Cheating is cheating if your spouse is not aware and voluntarily sharing you. Partners are irrelevant as the point is either fidelity or transparency and mutual approval.

Most women flat love men who are Bi anyhow so the real goal is honest communication.

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4-Oct-24 15:56
quietwacpl said: While in a relationship, doing anything sexual with anyone same gender or not without your partners knowledge & consent is cheating. But, I'm married & love my wife so my views may be skewed

Although there are probably a lot of people that won't agree with this statement and try an rationalize their infidelity, I agree with you 100% and your views are not skewed.

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StrongAlbatross945
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4-Oct-24 16:33
I know in my heart its wrong and I'm trying to rationalize it by saying my gf doesn't want sex. I would love to include her in my cockplay and also share her with others,male and female. I'm scared of losing her although when we met I told her I was in a threesome with a married couple and as I recall, she wasn't shocked or repulsed, but that was 15 years ago and we were newly loves! Lol Maybe someday I'll tell her and hope she likes the idea and joins in. Maybe I'll tell her if she joins in or at least allows it, I'll marry her!?😉😜 jerk yahoo raspberry redeyes drool bounce

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5-Oct-24 18:00
quietwacpl said: While in a relationship, doing anything sexual with anyone same gender or not without your partners knowledge & consent is cheating. But, I'm married & love my wife so my views may be skewed


This is the right answer. If your GF knows, and is ok with it, fine. If not, then it’s cheating. If she’s not ok with your bi side, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Either you accept it, or don’t. If she’s not ok with it, you’ll have to decide to either keep it in your pants or break up with her. Cheating just makes things worse.

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StrongAlbatross945
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6-Oct-24 15:12
Ok, I know I'm wrong for doing what I do behind my girlfriends back. However, I have checked the profiles of some critics and only one says their partner knows they are on this site! So to the rest of you,I ask this. When you sit down to dinner and talk about your day and your wife or gf asks you about your day, do you tell them " I had a great day looking at naked strangers on Newbie Nudes"? People in glass houses!? curse devil

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Sparkee67b
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6-Oct-24 15:13
I think the bottom line is, if you are having sex outside of your relationship without the others knowledge or permission, it's cheating. Period.

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quietwacpl
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6-Oct-24 16:49
StrongAlbatross945 said: Ok, I know I'm wrong for doing what I do behind my girlfriends back. However, I have checked the profiles of some critics and only one says their partner knows they are on this site! So to the rest of you,I ask this. When you sit down to dinner and talk about your day and your wife or gf asks you about your day, do you tell them " I had a great day looking at naked strangers on Newbie Nudes"? People in glass houses!? curse devil


I mean not at the dining room table because we have three little ones and that would be inappropriate. I look, she looks our life doesn't revolve around this site so it's not talked about much. Especially since we haven't taken many pictures since we had our first born. I'm guessing you weren't talking about us, but I'm bored and now maybe my wife & I will talk about my day at least talking to naked strangers.

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6-Oct-24 17:37
StrongAlbatross945 said: Ok, I know I'm wrong for doing what I do behind my girlfriends back. However, I have checked the profiles of some critics and only one says their partner knows they are on this site! So to the rest of you,I ask this. When you sit down to dinner and talk about your day and your wife or gf asks you about your day, do you tell them " I had a great day looking at naked strangers on Newbie Nudes"? People in glass houses!? curse devil

Im on NN, my current ''squeeze'' isnt
he knows about NN ive showed him site,
he at times ask me when im at laptop, -Are you social at nudie site?
if i am i say yes (some nnuders sends him regards)
communication and openess is everything to me
in other matter i think theres a huge difference in watching amateur porn and cheating


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StrongAlbatross945
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Self righteous thinking
7-Oct-24 00:39
It's funny how everyone has their own interpretation of cheating to suit their conscience and morals. I recall Jimmy Carter saying that he felt like he sinned because he" lusted in his heart" We all justify our actions as our needs change, I guess? It's so funny considering this is an "Amateur" porn site! Do the same arguments apply to Professional porn sites like Pornhub and Only Fans? Just playing Devil's Advocate and enjoying the banter on this topic. Thanks to everyone for their input. yahoo jerk rolleyes bounce drool

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7-Oct-24 01:20
StrongAlbatross945 said: It's funny how everyone has their own interpretation of cheating to suit their conscience and morals. I recall Jimmy Carter saying that he felt like he sinned because he" lusted in his heart" We all justify our actions as our needs change, I guess? It's so funny considering this is an "Amateur" porn site! Do the same arguments apply to Professional porn sites like Pornhub and Only Fans? Just playing Devil's Advocate and enjoying the banter on this topic. Thanks to everyone for their input. yahoo jerk rolleyes bounce drool

[color=800080] i dont think its self rightious,
we are raise different, experienced different things that colour our opinions
if me n my partner have different strong libido
and he or I masturbate to porn, not sexting with another person,
i dont see that as cheating, and no matter if amateur ot pro porn,
i would have issues if their was money spent on like OF or chaturbate or even premium on NN
it can get expensive, if agreed upon then its another matter
or open relation, which isnt cheating[/color

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StrongAlbatross945
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If it feels good,do it!
7-Oct-24 08:21
Thanks for the feedback everyone. I am going to continue sucking cock because it's easier to get than pussy and I guess I'm addicted. I can be found in video chat here jacking off almost daily
Look me up and we'll get off together! jerk raspberry bounce tongue

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StrongAlbatross945
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If it feels good,do it!
7-Oct-24 08:43
Thanks for the feedback everyone. I am going to continue sucking cock because it's easier to get than pussy and I guess I'm addicted. I can be found in video chat here jacking off almost daily
Look me up and we'll get off together! jerk raspberry bounce tongue

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bimarriedbottom
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No they don’t.
7-Oct-24 11:43
PhallicSupermacyOne said:

Most women flat love men who are Bi anyhow so the real goal is honest communication.


Who are these women? Most? Bet not! 🤣🤣🤣 And I know at least one who hates it!
As to the original question, of course it’s cheating. Break up with her, do both of you a favor.

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ace15
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Your question
8-Oct-24 00:49
From your responses it looks like you never wanted honest opinions, you just wanted everyone to agree with you so you could justify your actions


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StrongAlbatross945
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8-Oct-24 10:02
I did thank everyone for their input as you can see. I see you are " married,but up for it anyway and seeking a girl" ? WTF?

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StrongAlbatross945
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8-Oct-24 10:04
I did thank everyone for their input as you can see. I see you are " married,but up for it anyway and seeking a girl"WTF?

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Julieannfringe
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8-Oct-24 12:21
I've hear a comedian say that being bisexual may not be cheating, but it is greedy. angel

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The more the merrier.
8-Oct-24 12:49
Julieannfringe said: I've hear a comedian say that being bisexual may not be cheating, but it is greedy. angel


Guilty as charged! The more the merrier for me, my wife prefers monogamy…🤣 ☹️😫😭

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eager2bbi
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Yes, but….
9-Oct-24 16:05
So, I’m generally the same age and situation - no sex with wife as her meds destroy libido.

Consequently, I am bi and casually active with selected regular FWBs and the occasional new opportunity (always welcome to discuss!). I enjoy all activities in MM and MMF scenarios.

But, back to the question at hand - yes it is moral and spiritual cheating. One has to decide if you can live with that. A recent article in the WSJ talked about ‘choices’ and essentially said that folks ALWAYS have choices but you have to be willing to accept whatever consequences come along with them.

On another note, as some suggested here, at one time I admitted my bi interests to spouse…it did not go well.

Comments?

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StrongAlbatross945
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9-Oct-24 17:21
Thanks for the reply. You and I are definitely in the same situation,so I appreciate your input. I'm sorry it didn't go well when you came out to your wife. I'm assuming you are still married? I know it's only a matter of time until something happens that will expose my secret life, but I can't seem to stop. I love cock play and sucking and watching and being watched. I ask myself if I am bi or gay all the time since I haven't had pussy in 2 years but have had many cocks. I still get turned on more by watching bi porn and not as much with gay porn. I love watching trannies too. I I have tried anal both giving and receiving a little bit, but it didn't work out well either way." Bi "the way I checked out your pics and you have a nice cock that I would gladly stroke and suck.
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eager2bbi
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9-Oct-24 19:53
Thx for the reply.

Yes still married. I was supposed to curtain activity but could only manage to hold off for 6 months.

Just like you, the play is addictive.

Distance would seem to be a barrier but thx for the interest…

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Didn't read any of the replies, but...
10-Oct-24 02:05
Is it cheating?
If your wife doesn't know you're having sex with men, then yes! It's cheating. 100%

Before you go out you should always say to your wife "I'm going somewhere and I'll be having sex with other men and women, ok?"
If she says "Ok, dear, have fun" Then it's not cheating.

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10-Oct-24 07:05
Does my wife know I'm on this site? No. She doesn't know which sites I look at. But she knows I look at porn sites and read erotica. She also knows I exchange messages regularly with another woman who has legally engaged in sex acts for pay. It's not a crime where the other woman lives. My wife knows I masturbate. Sometimes she helps me. And we do have sex once in a while. My wife doesn't like to talk about sex, so we rarely do.

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10-Oct-24 08:13
A lot of wives screw women. Many with their husband knowing and many that keep them in the dark. A neighborhood wife Ho is cheating even with other wives unless her husband knows too.

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